Weeding Out Negative Thoughts

This is a post I wrote especially for ProHealth’s Inspirational Corner and first appeared there about a month ago:

We all have negative thoughts at some time or another. Sometimes we can be inundated with them and at other times they may barely cross our minds. Sometimes they are triggered by negative events and at other times a simple change in our biochemistry can bring them in abundance.

We don’t really have control over what thoughts pop into our head. However we do have control over how we respond to them.  There are also various ways we can cultivate and encourage more positive thoughts.

The best way to deal with negative thoughts is to invest a bit of energy in preventing them! This is a bit like fertilising a bit of land and planting some seeds. You won’t be able to avoid having to do a bit of weeding, but once the right plants are prospering the weeds rarely get a look in.

There are several nutrients that make up the idea fertilizer for a positive mind:

  • Deep breathing, relaxation and meditation
  • Good nutrition
  • Appropriate movement/exercise
  • Laughter
  • Good sleep

Some of my favourite seeds that are great at out-competing the weeds include:

  • Gratitude
  • Appreciating the little things life
  • Loving kindness
  • Mindfulness and present moment awareness
  • Paying attention to balancing your different needs
  • Affirmations

But we also have to be prepared to actually do the weeding when the negative thoughts crop up, especially early on before all our seeds have reached maturity!

Negative thoughts will thrive when given added meaning. There are lots of different ways we add meaning to our spontaneous negative thoughts: focusing on what they mean in terms of the future; allowing them to trigger regrets about the past; or allowing ourselves to make comparisons with other people or another time are just a few.  Our first line of defence has to be to watch out for when we’re adding to our negativity by giving meaning to our thoughts. For example, If you find yourself frustrated that today you can’t do something that you could do yesterday. Don’t add the meaning ‘I must be getting worse’ just aim to accept that this is the way it is today.

Just like weeds our negative thoughts can’t be completely ignored either; try to ignore them and they’ll take over the landscape of your mind. Weeds and negative thoughts alike need to be accepted and acknowledged as just a normal, natural part of life. No point in getting stressed about a natural phenomenon you have no control over. Once it’s happened you just need to decide what to do about it. Is this thought useful in any way? Or can it just be pulled up and tossed on the compost heap?

Weeds do have a habit of cropping up over and over again, but with persistence you’ll soon get the upper hand! Persistent weeding is a difficult habit to cultivate, but all good gardeners have discovered the benefits of taking action early! It really can pay off!

This week I had some bad news about a loved one being diagnosed with a life threatening illness. The work I do to create a good emotional environment meant that although several worrying/sad thoughts cropped up, they weren’t too persistent. Once I acknowledged them and the feelings that accompanied them, I was able to let them go and choose not to let them spoil any more of the present moment. After all this person hasn’t died yet, we don’t yet know how serious it is, it serves nobody to allow worry into this present moment when nothing has actually happened yet and nothing can yet be done. There may be pain and hardship in the future but it can be dealt with if and when it comes!

It’s not always that easy though. ME/CFS and Fibromyalgia can have an effect on our brain chemistry, polluting our garden making it less fertile to positivity. Practices which fertilise the mind can take quite a while to reach a point where your seeds are flourishing and out-competing the weeds. Letting go of negative thoughts requires persistence, you just have to keep weeding until the garden is established! Even then there are many things that can affect our brain chemistry that we don’t always have control over (think of the devastation wreaked by an unseasonal hail storm!).

Last week my hormones provided me with far more of a challenge than the difficult news I heard this week. I experienced an onslaught of negative thoughts about a really very trivial matter: a couple of failed attempts by a courier service to deliver a box of herbal teas. At the time all I could do about these thoughts was recognise their lack of importance and dismiss them straight away, but I couldn’t stop them repeatedly popping into my head. It was uncomfortable and unpleasant, but I refused to let them be more than that and patiently waited for my efforts at fertilisation to win the battle against the negative brain chemistry.

Cultivating a fertile mind requires patience and persistence and the willingness to try again if the crops fail!

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